CaterpillarToButterfly:A GenZ's guide to Adulting

        "We are only as needy as our unmet needs" - John Bowlby 💟Hello dear readers, Come with me to explore the mystical and interesting world of attachments where we will get to know why we behave the way we do or why anyone around us is a way they are.... In the above quoted famous quote by John Bowlby ,who is the pioneer of the concept of attachments has so rightly expressed how we as adults are shaped with respect to how and what environment we are raised in as a child, and the way we look up to others in search of expecting a certain way to be treated, which is nothing but just our unmet needs as a child. In simple words, Attachment is the emotional bonds we form with one another. British psychologist John Bowlby explored this concept of how our early relationships with our primary caregivers plays a vital role in forming bonds. There have been numerous researches in this field that explain our attachments and bond forming abilities.  The prevailing atti...

Just randomly, on one fine hot and stifling summer afternoon in May, a thought struck my mind out of nowhere: “Does our generation really have any bit of trust left in humanity and our fellow humans?” The answer to this, on a surface level, might be as simple as: "Yes, we do—what’s really so concerning about this question?" But my dear readers, the story behind this goes much deeper—yet it largely goes unnoticed.👀 Other than all the big or small issues we Gen Z are expected to deal with—such as existential crises, body image issues, and peer pressure— trust issues are yet another conflict most of us silently carry. Now the question arises: How challenging is it to maintain a baseline of integrity and faith in relationships and in our day-to-day life? Trust is like an invisible thread that strings people together in any form of relationship or partnership. It is instinctive—not just to humans, but even to animals. When we are too little to know or understand anything, ...

A Human Relationship? What does that mean? In literal sense of words, it's basically the way two people are linked or interact with each other; but to us it's all just too messed up! Talking about the dynamics of relationships, most often it's about the two involved. So, in order to get a better understanding of the relationships, the most important and the foremost step is getting a good understanding of our self, because the only person we can be sure of, is our own self😌 and no matter how much of an ardent lover you might be, you are still crazy enough to think that you can change a person with your love, as bitter as it sounds, you can't change anyone , so at the end the only person you are left with, is yourself, so we better be focusing on changing that.  The first and the most favorite thing we all do here is forming relations with little or no wisdom to sustain those. And this system started as soon as we stepped on this planet, we were introduced to a supera...

Growing up , we didn't realize how words changed their meaning for us Words have not remained mere words, they have rather become emotions. Back in those days when sleep was happiness and not an escape , When birthdays used to be fun and felt like a festival, Who knew that being this excited about being born will soon turn into an existential crisis? From catching cold to catching feelings, from falling while walking to falling in love, When the word Ship to us was Titanic and not relation-ships and situation-ships, Oh I wonder how our playful selves turned to such serious, crazy overthinkers. That shiny face, spark in those eyes that dared to dream of the sky, And the only thing that stopped us was not having wings and not having a feature to fly. From that child for whom anything & everything looked like a victory, to these self doubt filled adults who have forgotten how to celebrate themselves.  To this timeline of our life where freedom, space & pleasure all look dist...